From my perspective, the individual person doesn’t contribute much to the progress of a modern society. Only groups that are reaching towards the same goal can make a substantial difference that can be seen on a larger scale. But, having said that, the individual is, in normal circumstances, part of a group and that group again forming larger groups that then have an influence on the bigger picture. For an individual to have influence on their peers, traits like, for example, trust, reliability and frankness are far more important to achieve their goals.
The perception of these traits are based on the information that anyone reveals – spoken as well as body language. Perhaps a reason that some people hold back information about themselves or conceal information about anything intentionally is because they assume that doing so will be advantageous for the whole group without thinking about possible disadvantages.
From now on, I will refer to this kind of behavior to conceal information as “being nice”. I’m aware that this doesn’t reflect the whole spectrum of the meaning of the word nice. For that reason I define the word nice within the following frame. [Read more…]